It is a common site these days to spot parents who handover mobile, toys, gaming devices, and other luxuries to their children so that their ward doesn’t disturb them and remain busy playing with them. Also, they are so infatuated about their children comfort that they will constantly keep saying, “I have made enough for you to survive and thrive. My whole life has been a struggle to bring wealth, comfort and stature for you to enjoy.” It seems parents have forgotten the rules and principles of upbringing a responsible citizen who can take care of themselves, their parents, family, society, and country. They are forgetting that by handing over the toys and gadgets aren’t going to prepare them for a meaningful life.
“Those parents who don’t teach their children life skills, who don’t nurture their children talents, and who don’t facilitate life experiences are as the enemy of their children.” Chanakya
“Indulge our children up to the age of five years, teach them to firm up the habits and disciples between five to fifteen years, and once they become 16 years, treat them as a friend.” Subhashita
Ancient Hindu principle suggests that children should maintain Brahmacharya until the age of 25 because it is considered as an age of creation and nurturing.
Children up to the age of five should be treated with all sort of royalty and must be given best care and upbringing as they do not know how to care for themselves. They also lack the verbal and emotional skill to express their needs with clarity. Parents need to observe and provide an environment in which they hear, sense, participate and interact with their children to develop skills of observation, communication, and behaviors.
Between the age of five and fifteen children need to be inculcated with the habits and disciplines that will make them a responsible and accountable citizens. At this age, children must learn manners, etiquettes, rules, and responsibilities they have as a citizen of the country. They should be provided with the opportunity to hone their talent and skills through a holistic learning and development.
Once, children attain the age of 16, they should be treated as a participant in handling family, society and national matter. They should be provided with the opportunity to go out and learn real-life lessons, participate in discussions, brainstorm on matters to crystallize their thinking and learn the skills of listening.