Your success today mostly depends on the way you deal with the people around you. Whether you call them family, friends, partners, customer, or employee - they all are people.
People help you vet and get introduced to possible allies and trust connections.
It's people who understand you, your aspirations and correlate them with the market realities.
It's people who help you track the risk attached to a given opportunity.
You need to forge the relationships with people because of everything you wish to get achieved boils down to interacting with people.
It's people who control resources, opportunities, information and everything else. And your level of success in this world greatly depends on your commitment to empathy.
Empathy is a way to conduct yourself in a very compassionate and respectful way, seeing how the receiver is feeling; how do they see the situation. How receivers hopes, dreams and needs are met.
To pursue empathy is to communicate in a definitive, belief based, authoritative and convincing point of view. It is like when you communication, people feel that you've understood their feelings well. It's like you saying, "I want to give you what you need, want and deserve."
The sage of steady mind "One who is not disturbed in mind even amidst the threefold miseries or elated when there is happiness, and who is free from attachment, fear and anger, is called a sage of steady mind." Bhagawad Gita 2.56
I realised that whenever I begin the day thinking of simply being happy - I start feeling of becoming lazy, do nothing, relax, etc. and whenever i opt to live like this I get more frustrated and uncomfortable. Our everyday comprises of highs and lows, positives and negatives, pleasantries and surprises.
Knowing this as part of our everyday living focus on well-rounded, seasoned, savoured life is what we should aim for. I realise that happiness is part of completeness but so is sadness, difficulty, frustration. You cant eat bland food for too long, you need to add spices to make food delicious and complete.
If someone ask, are you struggling and making, the answer is "yes". I am a bullock and I know I have to pull the cart called life - be it winter or summer, plane surface or hurdled terrain. The feelings of happiness and fulfillment are nice when they happen, and they are needed, but they don’t strengthen me they are like a milestone in my journey.
In the northern state of India, there is a great and hugely popular temple of God Krishna. Hundreds of priests are employed for the prayer and taking care of the God. One night the chief priest of temple dreamed that the God will visit the temple next day. The chief priest awake from his sleep and started wondering in disbelief. He knows it very well that there is no god. So, how is it possible that the god himself will come to the temple next day? He could not sleep and spend rest of the night thinking about his dream and what to do.
The chief priest never believed in such thing called the existence of god. He knew that there does not exist God. Each day the food he offered to God but he knew that in reality he had offered it to himself. He knew that his everyday prayer never reached the god and his invocations were lost in the empty sky. “It was just a dream and a dream rarely turns into reality.” – he murmured to himself.
However, he was a bit scared too. The priest thought that sometime dreams become true too. If his dream becomes true, the god arrives at his temple, he is unprepared and not able to serve the God, he will loose a golden opportunity to serve the real God and obtain his grace. After lots of deliberation, he decided to share his dream with his close colleagues and priests. He called them into the central hall of the temple and said, “It may seem to you as a joke, yet I should tell you about it. Last night I dreamed of God appearance in my dream and God said that he would visit us today.”
His colleagues started laughing and making joke of him, “Are you mad that you believe in dreams? Please stop here. Please don’t tell others about it. People will think you are gone crazy. You are such a learned man who knows it very well that God does not exist.”
The head priest insisted, “Sometime dreams come true as well. We should prepare in the anticipation of God arrival. There is no harm if he does not turn up. But, if he comes, we will not be found wanting and this will not make god feel good about us.” He ordered the priests to start preparing for the God arrival and offer their best to appease the God if he arrives at the temple.
All the priests started the preparation for God arrival. They decorated the temple with flowers, flags and festoons. Lamps were lit and incense burned. Perfumes were sprayed everywhere in the surrounding. The priests begin chanting the sacred mantras and performing ritual invocations.
The priests tired themselves out in the course of the entire day, but God did not turn up. Every now and then they looked up the road and they were disappointed not seeing any glimpse of god arrival. The evening was fast approaching but the God did not turn up.
Finally, they consoled themselves, ”Dream is a dream after all; God is not going to come. We were fools to believe in the dream of chief priest and get carried away by the order. It was good that we did not inform the people of the town; otherwise they would have simply laughed at us. We would have lead people to the great disappointment.”
By evening the priests gave up all hope and they ate the sumptuous food cooked for the God. They were chatting among themselves - “It has ever been so: what we offer to God is consumed by us in the end. No one is going to turn up. The irony is that we knowingly made fools of ourselves.”
“If others go mad, they can be excused, because they don’t know. But we know God never comes. Where is God? There is this idol in the temple; it is all there is to it. And it is our business, our profession to worship him.”
They had early dinner and went to bed early, as they were tired. When it was midnight, a chariot pulled up at the gate of the temple. One of the sleeping priests heard the sound of the chariot and thought that it was God’s chariot. He shouted to others, ” Friends, hope you listen the sound of chariot pulled up at the gate of the temple. It seems God, for whom we waited the whole day has arrived at our temple. I heard the noise of the chariot.”
The colleague priests sleeping nearby snubbed him saying, ”Shut up, you crazy one. We have had enough of madness all through the day; now that it is night let us sleep well. It is not the sound of a chariot, but the rumblings of the clouds in the skies.”
The chariot halted at the gate, and the God climbed the steps of the temple and knocked at its door. And again one of the priests woke up from sleep and shouted to his associates, ”It seems our guest the God has arrived whom we awaited the whole day long. He is knocking at the door.”
The other priests berated him as they had done with the first. They said, ”Are you not crazy? Won’t you allow us to sleep? We are so tired because of the whole day madness. It is just the dash of winds against the door and not a knock of a caller.” So they again rationalized and remained at their beds.
The next morning when they walked to the gate, they were astounded to see the footprints on the steps of the temple. “Someone in the night has climbed the steps of our temple in the night.” One of the priests affirmed.
“Oh! Here is the mark of chariot’s wheels on the road adjacent to our temple gate.” Shouted another priest.
Finally they concluded that the God arrived at the temple as he notified us in advance by appearance in the dream of the chief priest. The chariot came at the temple and the marks of footprint were not of any common man. The priests were for a great grief and burst into tears.
Gradually the people of the village started gathering at the temple premise. They were surprised and had no clue about the happenings in the temple premise.
Everybody in the crowd asked with bewilderment, ”What is the matter?” The chief priests said, ”Don’t ask what the matter is. God knocked at the door of our temple last night, but we did not come up to welcome him. We rationalized everything. We are now damned. He knocked at the door and we thought that it was the flapping sound of the winds. His chariot came, and we thought that it was the rumble of thunder in the sky. The truth is that we did not understand anything. We only explained them away, because we wanted to enjoy our sleep.”
God knocks at every door. His grace visits every home. But our doors are shut. And even when we hear a knock we immediately rationalize it and explain it away.
A river flows so that it can quench the thirsty. Tree provides shadow and fruits so that those affected by sun heat can come for rest and enjoy its’ fruits. The cloud seeds the water so that crop can grow. Similarly, the wealth of virtuous should be for the benefits of others.
There are 8 types of wealth that each one of us possesses – the prime, grain, composure, wideness, child, virtue, knowledge and wealth. The possessor of these wealth are known as a virtuous people when they put these wealth for the benefits of other.
Our society is suffering from unequal distribution of wealth. Due to economic policy pitfalls rich are growing richer and poor people are having difficulty in living. Helping is a noble deed and it only increases the wealth possession.
पिबन्ति नद्यः स्वयमेव नाम्भः स्वयं न खादन्ति फलानी वृक्षाः |
नादंती सस्यम खलु वारिवाहः परोपकाराय सताम विभूतयः ||
The lord Ram is signified as the person of highest human values. There are several stories in the Ramayana that establish lord Ram as an accomplished and holistic person.
After getting the idea from the sea-queen about making the bridge over the sea to connect to Lanka for fighting the war with Ravana and freeing Sita from the demon, all the monkey and bear warriors started picking and placing the boulders into the sea.
Lord Ram was very happy to see the high energy level, passion, and dedication of his army towards constructing the bridge. A squirrel was picking up a little pebble in her mouth and putting it alongside the boulders. She was repeating this continuously and effortlessly. She was found by a monkey who started making the mockery of her and told to stay away as she will die if she comes under the boulder or the leg of any army.
Every monkey and bear started laughing at the squirrel and started making the mockery out of her. Squirrel was in tears and hurt. She was continuously telling the army that she is doing her bit to help in getting the Sita free from the Ravan. Lord Ram realized this from the distance and came near the squirrel.
The squirrel started complaining to Ram about the mockery of his army for which Ram felt bad. He told and shown to the monkey army that the pebble that she has thrown in the sea has worked as the connector between the two boulders and her contribution is as big as any other member of his army.
Realizing this all army men were in the state of shame and felt bad for doing the mockery of the squirrel.
To appreciate and show the gesture for the contributions that squirrel made Rama gently stroked the squirrel`s back with his hand. When he raised his hand, the marks of his fingers came upon the body of a squirrel in the form of brown fur. And ever since then the squirrel has carried three white stripes on her back, as a token of Rama`s affection.
"No work is big or small. It's not the stature of work that matters, but what you learn from working that counts. Never listen to people who tell you that the work you are doing is demeaning or would undermine your prestige. Remember, work doesn't undermine prestige, it is the absence of work that does."
One morning a Great Sadhu knocked at the door of a Great King and asked him to support him by filling his begging bowl with anything.
King was very kindled and happy to hear the Sadhu's request. He ordered his staff to fill his bowl with Gold coins. The moment Gold coins were put inside the Bowl, instantly they used to disappear. Every time, the king's staff will bring the the gold coin and fill in the Bowl, the Bowl will become empty. This keep on repeating until the evening.
The King's treasury was emptied by the end of the day but the Bowl still remained empty.
Amazed by this mysterious and magical act, the King was asked the Sadhu humbly - "Please tell me the secret to fill this mysterious bowl”.
The Sadhu said “O King, this bowl is made from the heart of a Human. Nothing of this world can satisfy and fill a human heart.”
Name, fame, Power, Money, Sex and Comforts etc can never fill human heart.
A human heart is made to love God and Only Love for God can fill it.