Don’t die mad, sad, stressed, confused

During our conversation yesterday, she was sounding tired, hassled and exhausted. I quipped, “Why do you sound like you are excessively tired?”
“Yes, I am. Off late it seems I am surrounded with so many things. My sleep time has reduced to a few hours. I feel like I am working in my sleep too.” Replied she.
Me: “Think that you die in a moment from now. Your dead body is lying on the floor and your soul is looking at your body from up above. What would it say?”
After a momentary pause, I continued “Would it feel proud the way you are treating it inside your body?”
She said, “It is a quite new way to think and take stock of life.”
The question that you should ask: When your efforts are not directed at a cause or a purpose, how do you decide what to do day in and day out?
How do you know what to say no to and what to say yes to?
How do you know when you’ve had enough?
Why you’ve gotten on or off the track which keeps you tired, awake, hassled and hungry?

The answer you should find out is that find your meaning, direct your efforts to it, keep that meaning in view. It’s not the activity that
disturbs you, but false conceptions of things that drive you mad. Don’t die mad, sad, stressed, confused.

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The matter about things that don’t matter to you

How much of your time do you waste every day in useless activities, time waster activities, WhatsApp university, and social media distractions? How about you remain standstill contemplating about excitements, anger, ego, greed, lust, pretention, etc.?
When two days in your life is fixed why are you carrying these burdens which keep you overwhelmed and consume your life?
Why don’t you reclaim the remaining time of your life back? Why don’t you learn to say more “No” — as in “No, thank you,” and “No, I’m not going to get caught up in that,” and “No, I just can’t right now.” when you are faced with things that don’t matter to you?
The easy way out to stop wasting yourself and start spending time on the things that really matter to you begins with the realisation.

  • Write down how do you spend your time every day.
  • Strike down the things that you won’t have done.
  • Now, find out the things that you’d have spent more time and got a better result than you’d have.
  • Start planning your day in advance. Every morning spend 15-30 minutes planning your day for the things that matter to you.
  • Write the journal every day highlighting the things that you did to make yourself better, faster or time waster.
  • This will let you live your life for the things that matter most to you and enjoy your life—the life that you want.

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God is the ultimate recipient of all the services done to every living being

You face for types of living being:

Happy being who do good, live well and win hearts.

Sad people who are always regretful for their past, unsatisfied for their present and fearful about their future.

Virtuous people are always satisfied with their present and always prepared for opportunities.

Sinful beings who are surrounded with lust, gluttony, greed, laziness, wrath, envy and false pride.

In Chapter 12 verse 13-14, God Krishna explains Arjuna about how to deal with these peoples in life.

अद्वेष्टा सर्वभूतानां मैत्रः करुण एव च ।
अद्वेष्टा सर्वभूतानां मैत्रः करुण एव च ।
निर्ममो निरहङ्कारः समदुःखसुखः क्षमी ॥ १२-१३॥
सन्तुष्टः सततं योगी यतात्मा दृढनिश्चयः ।
मय्यर्पितमनोबुद्धिर्यो मद्भक्तः स मे प्रियः ॥ १२-१४॥

He, who has no ill-will for any being, who is friendly and compassionate to all, who is free from the sense of egoism, and is even-minded in pleasure and pain, forgiving, ever content, self-controlled, unshakable in determination, with mind and intellect dedicated to Me-a Yogi, My devotee, is dear to Me.

Here God Krishna has combined the happy and virtuous into one category and asked his true devotee to conduct them as their friend and treat the sinful and sad people compassionately.

Therefore the Lord declares that the devotee, who has dedicated his mind and intellect to him, is loving to him. No one else at all can be loving to God besides such a devotee.

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How do you remind yourself of your duties

You love to keep setting the goals, targets, agendas, and duties, yet caught up in the day to day urgency, you keep forgetting it. Have you ever asked yourself about why it happens?

Arjuna decides to fight the war. He invites Lord Krishna to become his mentor and charioteer. When he approaches the Warfield, seeing his relatives, friends, and acquaintances gathered there to kill each other, he gets infected by the delusion. He tells Krishna “It would, indeed, be better for me, if the sons of Dhrtarastra
armed with weapons, killed me in battle, with me, while I will be
unarmed and unresisting.” BG.1.46

Many people support the arguments presented by Arjuna citing the reason that we live dutybound in this world to safeguard the well-being of our families and relatives. You may not agree with the point of view of Lord Krishna reminding and convincing Arjuna of his duties.

While your mind is mostly occupied to fulfill the needs and wants of yourself and your loved ones, but the love of God is always directed towards the welfare and benediction of all beings. The fact is, that Lord Krsna did not make Arjuna wage war. He reminded him of his duty only. It was Arjuna, who had invited Lord Krsna, to the war front. But seeing his kinsmen on the hostile side, he was turning away from his duty.
Remind yourself of an incident when you planned to go to some place, but by mistake, you are going in the opposite direction. You then happen to meet a person whom you request to guide you with the direction. The latter,
tells you that you have taken the wrong direction, so you should turn back. Here, the person shows you the right direction.

If you are failing constantly in achieving your set goals, targets, plans or objectives; find a mentor like Lord Krishna who can keep reminding you of your direction whenever you have forgotten or lost your path.

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Start Leading

Lead Yourself by taking up the responsibility of your own work, your own deed and deliver what you commit you will.

Lead Your Team by communicating with clarity, align members with your goals, and understand their desires and goals well.

Lead your family by having respect, clear communication, avoid criticism, stop being judgemental, listen to your family members, express love and appreciation, and frequently bring together family members to celebrate joys, milestones, and celebrations.

Lead your community by setting goals for your community, take the responsibility and get it done, and involve stakeholders.

Lead your country by having a balanced view of righteousness, wealth and actions.

Lead Your Industry by spreading your message outside your wall in a way that it inspires people.

For this to happen, you need to stop micromanaging, start learning and build profound connections with people who matter to you and your industry.

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Little Bets

Yesterday during the interaction with student entrepreneurs at Nirmala College, I met a student who started his business while being in college. His story is like this:
He thought that he has passion and acumen for photography. He purchased a low-cost camera to start his photography business. Subsequently, he made some money and invested in buying a professional DSLR with the investment of Rs. 80,000 from his profit. Now, he has a dream to setup his own studio.
My own journey as an entrepreneur started with little bets. Selling books, computer stationery, side projects. I call it little bets for a small win to gain the confidence you need to inroad for a giant leap.

Little bets are concrete actions taken to discover, test, and develop ideas that are achievable and affordable. They begin as creative possibilities that get iterated and refined over time, and they are particularly valuable when trying to navigate amid uncertainty, create something new, or attend to open-ended problems.

If you have been thinking about starting up something big, start placing little bets today to experience small win and a big confidence boost. I bet you to place little bets today…

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