Rejection

There isn’t one who hasn’t faced “No.” It is kind of a precondition to hear multiple no before you can get to yes. Whether you are trying to get your desired job, start a business, raise funding, get a promotion, or get the proposal approved. Numerous door knocking, follow-ups, presentations, and conversation – yet you face no.

However, you look at people having the success score with getting to yes, you will find that they keep bouncing back in spite of hearing no multiple time. They will hear no, rework on their weaknesses, and knock on another door. In my opinion, the key to handle rejections and emerge as a winner out of it lies in paying attention to the quality, not the number of rejections. Every time when you hear a rejection, pay attention to the feedback you receive, detect the friction, strengthen your proposition and get ready to hunt for another door.

It takes time to learn how to handle rejection, but gradually your mind will prepare to handle the rejections as after every rejection, you will step forward to knowing what people want, what are the unmet need that people have, what’s out there in the reality, and how to improve your offering to get closer to achieve your goals.

The result? You’ll be more actively participate in achieving your goals and rejection will act as your tools for growth and embrace your life with the accomplishments you have chosen to be one.

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Grief

“You grieve for those who should not be grieved for, yet you speak words of apparent wisdom.
The wise grieve neither for the dead nor for the living.” Gita Ch.2.11

You are an ocean filled with the grief; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. Your identity is misplaced in the grief as the identity of river water gets lost as soon as they enter the ocean – you always come up with the excuses and justifications citing the social, economic, intellectual and political situation that limits you not to perform up to your true potential. You are a misplaced creature succumbed into the degraded, deprived and disoriented under the web of food, water, shelter, status, and stigma.

You are always caught in the dilemma; attaining the self-realization offering your capacity and energy for the righteous act versus endless contemplation of acts, deeds, rituals, limiting beliefs and unrighteousness. Now is the time, you stop grieving citing falsehood notion you are surrounded with.

There is over a million self-help book and there are several millions of people buying and reading the self-help book. But, there is hardly any genuine beneficiary of self-help book because none wants to help the self.

The journey of self-realization begins knowing your true potential, knowing that you are not the physical form that the world sees, you are here for a purpose that the supreme-self has set for you. You need to remind yourself of your purpose and potential. You need to arise. You need to set your score by attaining the power which is latent beneath your body. You need to do the selfish work to self-realize your calling.

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Lollypop

It is a common site these days to spot parents who handover mobile, toys, gaming devices, and other luxuries to their children so that their ward doesn’t disturb them and remain busy playing with them. Also, they are so infatuated about their children comfort that they will constantly keep saying, “I have made enough for you to survive and thrive. My whole life has been a struggle to bring wealth, comfort and stature for you to enjoy.” It seems parents have forgotten the rules and principles of upbringing a responsible citizen who can take care of themselves, their parents, family, society, and country. They are forgetting that by handing over the toys and gadgets aren’t going to prepare them for a meaningful life.

“Those parents who don’t teach their children life skills, who don’t nurture their children talents, and who don’t facilitate life experiences are as the enemy of their children.” Chanakya

“Indulge our children up to the age of five years, teach them to firm up the habits and disciples between five to fifteen years, and once they become 16 years, treat them as a friend.” Subhashita

Ancient Hindu principle suggests that children should maintain Brahmacharya until the age of 25 because it is considered as an age of creation and nurturing.

Children up to the age of five should be treated with all sort of royalty and must be given best care and upbringing as they do not know how to care for themselves. They also lack the verbal and emotional skill to express their needs with clarity. Parents need to observe and provide an environment in which they hear, sense, participate and interact with their children to develop skills of observation, communication, and behaviors.

Between the age of five and fifteen children need to be inculcated with the habits and disciplines that will make them a responsible and accountable citizens. At this age, children must learn manners, etiquettes, rules, and responsibilities they have as a citizen of the country. They should be provided with the opportunity to hone their talent and skills through a holistic learning and development.

Once, children attain the age of 16, they should be treated as a participant in handling family, society and national matter. They should be provided with the opportunity to go out and learn real-life lessons, participate in discussions, brainstorm on matters to crystallize their thinking and learn the skills of listening.

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You are not good enough

How many times you have been told, “You are not good enough.”

Most prolific entrepreneurs, artists, leaders, and achievers have faced naysayers. They are everywhere in and they are in all of us.

During my growing up years, I was a bit introvert. I was not expressive. I was told, “You can’t write or speak in Hindi or English for 5 minutes. You are useless.” It took me less than 6 months to start publishing articles in leading newspapers and start speaking fluently in English. I didn’t respond to my naysayer by instant reply. I worked on it. I built the capabilities. I demonstrated that every weakness can be worked upon to convert it into your strength. To date, over 200 of my articles are published on various magazines and addressed over 30,000 people through keynotes, trainings, and workshops.

“First they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you. Then you win.” Mahatma Gandhi

Start believing that naysayers are doing you a favor. They are showing you the blindspot. Whenever you are faced with the naysayers don’t respond to them at an instant. Listen to them carefully, understand why they are saying this to you, thoroughly consider the why, how and what can get you to build your shortcomings into your strength. Move forward with the confidence to work upon it before you go and present your best to naysayers.

Let naysayers be busy making noise, you continue making things happen.

Everyone on the mission meets with people who curse, whin, whing and complain, you can continue to light the candle than curse the darkness.

Others may be busy criticising, but you dare yourself to go out of your comfort zone to fulfill your hunger, ambition, success, and greatness.

Don’t define yourself by your criticism, you refine your strength by disrupting and challenging the status quo pushing yourself to be a game changer.

When elephant walk on the road dog barks, you have chosen to be a big heart – doing righteous thing, giving back, empowering the loved ones and seizing the opportunities.

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Energy in Motion

Life is all about going from moment to moment doing right things or doing wrong things or doing nothing. And while being in these situations our mind generates emotions.

If you are doing right things your mind generates positive emotions of love, compassion, happiness, and pleasure. If you are doing wrong things or we are doing nothing, your mind is most likely generating negative emotions of hate, anger, fear, jealousy, infatuation, grief, distress, and pain and suffering. Your mind generates emotions because it is in constant contact between the senses and objects.

More you connect with the positive emotions better you’ll be overall in your life. So, whenever you feel under the grip of negative emotions, you need to take control yourself with some simple acts which will self-generate the positive emotions.

You are feeling upset because you didn’t get what you expected, just remind yourself “This too shall pass.”
Play or do things that make you feel happy. Shoot the hoop, make funny faces, tell jokes, sing your favorite song or anything else that you like.
Mediate for a while. Meditation helps you declutter your mind and instantly generates positive energy as it soothes your nerves.
Make a call to your friend with whom you can speak out your feelings.
Take someone whom you love for a treat. Enjoy your favorite food, drink, activity, shopping or anything else that you both enjoy.
Talk out loud with yourself. Go to a place where no one can hear you and just talk out loud to yourself. You will find yourself a lot more positive.

Emotion is a unique asset gifted to the living being. You can make robots which can be more intelligent than any living being but you cannot instill humanlike emotion to the robots. Live yourself more under the influence of positive emotions so that you are always empowered with your intelligence.

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