Lead Yourself by taking up the responsibility of your own work, your own deed and deliver what you commit you will.
Lead Your Team by communicating with clarity, align members with your goals, and understand their desires and goals well.
Lead your family by having respect, clear communication, avoid criticism, stop being judgemental, listen to your family members, express love and appreciation, and frequently bring together family members to celebrate joys, milestones, and celebrations.
Lead your community by setting goals for your community, take the responsibility and get it done, and involve stakeholders.
Lead your country by having a balanced view of righteousness, wealth and actions.
Lead Your Industry by spreading your message outside your wall in a way that it inspires people.
For this to happen, you need to stop micromanaging, start learning and build profound connections with people who matter to you and your industry.
Yesterday during the interaction with student entrepreneurs at Nirmala College, I met a student who started his business while being in college. His story is like this:
He thought that he has passion and acumen for photography. He purchased a low-cost camera to start his photography business. Subsequently, he made some money and invested in buying a professional DSLR with the investment of Rs. 80,000 from his profit. Now, he has a dream to setup his own studio.
My own journey as an entrepreneur started with little bets. Selling books, computer stationery, side projects. I call it little bets for a small win to gain the confidence you need to inroad for a giant leap.
Little bets are concrete actions taken to discover, test, and develop ideas that are achievable and affordable. They begin as creative possibilities that get iterated and refined over time, and they are particularly valuable when trying to navigate amid uncertainty, create something new, or attend to open-ended problems.
If you have been thinking about starting up something big, start placing little bets today to experience small win and a big confidence boost. I bet you to place little bets today…
Your biggest goal is to live every moment of life feeling accomplished. You may call it differently – wealth, freedom, success, etc. You aim to earn money, time, relationship, spirituality and ability to pursue your geniuses. Your life is an adventure to do something every day which can get you closer to one of these things your heart desire.
I remember during the induction program of my first job the employer asked,”What do you think why you are hired for?” Everyone replied claiming their education, intelligence, excellence in specific skills, etc. The employer replied, “You are not hired for any of these, but our company has specific problems and we believe you are well-equipped with the skills, abilities, and interest to solve problems better than many others whom we interviewed for the job.”
This one statement makes it clear to me that to be relevant in any workplace, you need to understand market reality, you need to develop skills that reflect your abilities to deliver substantial value, and knowing the exact system through which you can apply your learning in the real world environment to achieve your life goals.
Are you happy with whatever you have got in your life? Do you feel accomplished? Are you creating the income, impact, and success you deserve? If not, it is because you have not aligned your interests, skills, and abilities to strive to realize your potential and achieve greatness. You need to analyze and self-reflect to know your true potential and be aware mentally, physically and emotionally to achieve your greatness.
Use the attached template to know your dreams and what you need in order to leverage your geniuses. Instead of settling for a life of mediocrity, take your first step today to craft a life of limitless abundance.
There are umpteen amount of avenues of learning the skills necessary for you to deliver greater results skillfully applying your craft.
Find out the training, workshops, and courses that can teach you the vital skills necessary for you.
You need real life experiences to learn and grow your level of expertise through practical experimentations and experiences. When you go out and get things done, it brings positive impact on your credentials and gives you an opportunity to master your craft through real-world experiences.
You have honed your talent, acquired the skills and developed your abilities through meaningful experiences and experiments. You feel that you are a rockstar. Now, you need to lead the terrain by applying it to earn the income, make an impact and achieve your success. You are going to do the stuff better than anybody else because there is no one like you, there is absolutely no one who can do it better than you. Just do it!
There isn’t one who hasn’t faced “No.” It is kind of a precondition to hear multiple no before you can get to yes. Whether you are trying to get your desired job, start a business, raise funding, get a promotion, or get the proposal approved. Numerous door knocking, follow-ups, presentations, and conversation – yet you face no.
However, you look at people having the success score with getting to yes, you will find that they keep bouncing back in spite of hearing no multiple time. They will hear no, rework on their weaknesses, and knock on another door. In my opinion, the key to handle rejections and emerge as a winner out of it lies in paying attention to the quality, not the number of rejections. Every time when you hear a rejection, pay attention to the feedback you receive, detect the friction, strengthen your proposition and get ready to hunt for another door.
It takes time to learn how to handle rejection, but gradually your mind will prepare to handle the rejections as after every rejection, you will step forward to knowing what people want, what are the unmet need that people have, what’s out there in the reality, and how to improve your offering to get closer to achieve your goals.
The result? You’ll be more actively participate in achieving your goals and rejection will act as your tools for growth and embrace your life with the accomplishments you have chosen to be one.
“You grieve for those who should not be grieved for, yet you speak words of apparent wisdom.
The wise grieve neither for the dead nor for the living.” Gita Ch.2.11
You are an ocean filled with the grief; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. Your identity is misplaced in the grief as the identity of river water gets lost as soon as they enter the ocean – you always come up with the excuses and justifications citing the social, economic, intellectual and political situation that limits you not to perform up to your true potential. You are a misplaced creature succumbed into the degraded, deprived and disoriented under the web of food, water, shelter, status, and stigma.
You are always caught in the dilemma; attaining the self-realization offering your capacity and energy for the righteous act versus endless contemplation of acts, deeds, rituals, limiting beliefs and unrighteousness. Now is the time, you stop grieving citing falsehood notion you are surrounded with.
There is over a million self-help book and there are several millions of people buying and reading the self-help book. But, there is hardly any genuine beneficiary of self-help book because none wants to help the self.
The journey of self-realization begins knowing your true potential, knowing that you are not the physical form that the world sees, you are here for a purpose that the supreme-self has set for you. You need to remind yourself of your purpose and potential. You need to arise. You need to set your score by attaining the power which is latent beneath your body. You need to do the selfish work to self-realize your calling.
It is a common site these days to spot parents who handover mobile, toys, gaming devices, and other luxuries to their children so that their ward doesn’t disturb them and remain busy playing with them. Also, they are so infatuated about their children comfort that they will constantly keep saying, “I have made enough for you to survive and thrive. My whole life has been a struggle to bring wealth, comfort and stature for you to enjoy.” It seems parents have forgotten the rules and principles of upbringing a responsible citizen who can take care of themselves, their parents, family, society, and country. They are forgetting that by handing over the toys and gadgets aren’t going to prepare them for a meaningful life.
“Those parents who don’t teach their children life skills, who don’t nurture their children talents, and who don’t facilitate life experiences are as the enemy of their children.” Chanakya
“Indulge our children up to the age of five years, teach them to firm up the habits and disciples between five to fifteen years, and once they become 16 years, treat them as a friend.” Subhashita
Ancient Hindu principle suggests that children should maintain Brahmacharya until the age of 25 because it is considered as an age of creation and nurturing.
Children up to the age of five should be treated with all sort of royalty and must be given best care and upbringing as they do not know how to care for themselves. They also lack the verbal and emotional skill to express their needs with clarity. Parents need to observe and provide an environment in which they hear, sense, participate and interact with their children to develop skills of observation, communication, and behaviors.
Between the age of five and fifteen children need to be inculcated with the habits and disciplines that will make them a responsible and accountable citizens. At this age, children must learn manners, etiquettes, rules, and responsibilities they have as a citizen of the country. They should be provided with the opportunity to hone their talent and skills through a holistic learning and development.
Once, children attain the age of 16, they should be treated as a participant in handling family, society and national matter. They should be provided with the opportunity to go out and learn real-life lessons, participate in discussions, brainstorm on matters to crystallize their thinking and learn the skills of listening.
How many times you have been told, “You are not good enough.”
Most prolific entrepreneurs, artists, leaders, and achievers have faced naysayers. They are everywhere in and they are in all of us.
During my growing up years, I was a bit introvert. I was not expressive. I was told, “You can’t write or speak in Hindi or English for 5 minutes. You are useless.” It took me less than 6 months to start publishing articles in leading newspapers and start speaking fluently in English. I didn’t respond to my naysayer by instant reply. I worked on it. I built the capabilities. I demonstrated that every weakness can be worked upon to convert it into your strength. To date, over 200 of my articles are published on various magazines and addressed over 30,000 people through keynotes, trainings, and workshops.
“First they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you. Then you win.” Mahatma Gandhi
Start believing that naysayers are doing you a favor. They are showing you the blindspot. Whenever you are faced with the naysayers don’t respond to them at an instant. Listen to them carefully, understand why they are saying this to you, thoroughly consider the why, how and what can get you to build your shortcomings into your strength. Move forward with the confidence to work upon it before you go and present your best to naysayers.
Let naysayers be busy making noise, you continue making things happen.
Everyone on the mission meets with people who curse, whin, whing and complain, you can continue to light the candle than curse the darkness.
Others may be busy criticising, but you dare yourself to go out of your comfort zone to fulfill your hunger, ambition, success, and greatness.
Don’t define yourself by your criticism, you refine your strength by disrupting and challenging the status quo pushing yourself to be a game changer.
When elephant walk on the road dog barks, you have chosen to be a big heart – doing righteous thing, giving back, empowering the loved ones and seizing the opportunities.
Life is all about going from moment to moment doing right things or doing wrong things or doing nothing. And while being in these situations our mind generates emotions.
If you are doing right things your mind generates positive emotions of love, compassion, happiness, and pleasure. If you are doing wrong things or we are doing nothing, your mind is most likely generating negative emotions of hate, anger, fear, jealousy, infatuation, grief, distress, and pain and suffering. Your mind generates emotions because it is in constant contact between the senses and objects.
More you connect with the positive emotions better you’ll be overall in your life. So, whenever you feel under the grip of negative emotions, you need to take control yourself with some simple acts which will self-generate the positive emotions.
You are feeling upset because you didn’t get what you expected, just remind yourself “This too shall pass.”
Play or do things that make you feel happy. Shoot the hoop, make funny faces, tell jokes, sing your favorite song or anything else that you like.
Mediate for a while. Meditation helps you declutter your mind and instantly generates positive energy as it soothes your nerves.
Make a call to your friend with whom you can speak out your feelings.
Take someone whom you love for a treat. Enjoy your favorite food, drink, activity, shopping or anything else that you both enjoy.
Talk out loud with yourself. Go to a place where no one can hear you and just talk out loud to yourself. You will find yourself a lot more positive.
Emotion is a unique asset gifted to the living being. You can make robots which can be more intelligent than any living being but you cannot instill humanlike emotion to the robots. Live yourself more under the influence of positive emotions so that you are always empowered with your intelligence.
“You are born original, don’t die a copy.”
Sounds so much interesting and promising. Right.
After spending 9 months inside the womb in a downward direction placed between urine, excreta, and suffered a lot by the heat and smell, when you entered the world, it was such a pleasant feeling getting the grand reception from your mother, father, family, and relatives.
Everyone had a dream about you. Everyone wanted you to be the best version of them. But, as you grew, you started facing the limiting beliefs, restrictions, rules, social values, peer pressure and other real-life challenges.
You forgot the original you. You are now nothing else but a body having lost hope, diminished courage, dejection, and low spirit. And to cover it up, you started possessing the false ego, pretention, materialism, and self-boasting.
The life has become a suffering under the grip of despondency that leads to depression and confusion. It’s worrisome to observe our family and friends suffering due to constraints and stigmas. It is common to get vindicated watching the act of sinuous crime in our surrounding. You are nothing but a victim of the rules, guidelines, and laws imposed by few people merely understanding the paradigm under which human potential can bloom.
Can you list out the despondencies you suffer which have become the roadblock for you to not realize your true potential?
Points to Ponder – You’ve already wasted enough of time eating, sleeping, drinking, and wishful thinking – are you taking charge of your life or just made up the mind to die for a penny?
Everywhere in the social channels, you’d be seeing these quotes:
“Whom would you like to meet on your death day?”
“If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today.”
Take one more today: “If you have to make your biopic someday, what scene you are writing today?” This is the way to start with the end in mind.
As per erstwhile Indian tradition, bride and groom return home together in a sedan. A newlywed couple was traveling together to the marital home. While crossing a village the groom saw a cremation possession of a dead man. He informed his wife, “So sad day for the family, this man died today.”
Bride responded, “He’s not only dead but fully vanished wasted from the earth.”
The groom was taken aback. However, he tolerated the response thinking she might not have any emotional feelings about the grieved family.
After traveling few miles, the man saw a very well groomed paddy farm. He spoke the word of appreciation, “What a paddy farm? The farmer will certainly recover lots of profit for his efforts.”
The bride again responded, “There is nothing left for the farmer to rejoice.”
The groom started feeling angry and uncomfortable with the response. However, he tolerated the response and the sedan moved further.
After traveling further for a while, the groom saw a village market. He opined feeling impressed looking at the glam and glitter of the market, “Wow! This is such a huge and well-placed market with so many merchants and buyers.”
The bride replied, “Market is good but meaningless.”
The groom’s face was frowning with anger. He forced to stop the sedan. He went to the head of the nearby village and complained about his bride citing all the incidences and responses.
The head of the village asked the bride for the reason.
The bride replied:
1. I said the man is completely dead because he’s not left any legacy behind which will remind people of his deeds and acts of social charity.
2. The paddy farm owner has taken the loan and entire crop will be handed over to the merchant to repay the loan. So, he has nothing left for him.
3. The market is right but we don’t have money to buy anything from the market. It is meaningless to us.
The head of the village got convinced by the answer and asked the groom to respect his highly intelligent and practical bride.
What do you think of your story? Are you leaving a legacy?
Are you preserving and protecting yourself?
Are you having what it takes to live happily?
If you have not written a chapter yet, today is your day. All it takes is to think, decide and do – just do it!