“You grieve for those who should not be grieved for, yet you speak words of apparent wisdom.
The wise grieve neither for the dead nor for the living.” Gita Ch.2.11
You are an ocean filled with the grief; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. Your identity is misplaced in the grief as the identity of river water gets lost as soon as they enter the ocean – you always come up with the excuses and justifications citing the social, economic, intellectual and political situation that limits you not to perform up to your true potential. You are a misplaced creature succumbed into the degraded, deprived and disoriented under the web of food, water, shelter, status, and stigma.
You are always caught in the dilemma; attaining the self-realization offering your capacity and energy for the righteous act versus endless contemplation of acts, deeds, rituals, limiting beliefs and unrighteousness. Now is the time, you stop grieving citing falsehood notion you are surrounded with.
There is over a million self-help book and there are several millions of people buying and reading the self-help book. But, there is hardly any genuine beneficiary of self-help book because none wants to help the self.
The journey of self-realization begins knowing your true potential, knowing that you are not the physical form that the world sees, you are here for a purpose that the supreme-self has set for you. You need to remind yourself of your purpose and potential. You need to arise. You need to set your score by attaining the power which is latent beneath your body. You need to do the selfish work to self-realize your calling.
It is a common site these days to spot parents who handover mobile, toys, gaming devices, and other luxuries to their children so that their ward doesn’t disturb them and remain busy playing with them. Also, they are so infatuated about their children comfort that they will constantly keep saying, “I have made enough for you to survive and thrive. My whole life has been a struggle to bring wealth, comfort and stature for you to enjoy.” It seems parents have forgotten the rules and principles of upbringing a responsible citizen who can take care of themselves, their parents, family, society, and country. They are forgetting that by handing over the toys and gadgets aren’t going to prepare them for a meaningful life.
“Those parents who don’t teach their children life skills, who don’t nurture their children talents, and who don’t facilitate life experiences are as the enemy of their children.” Chanakya
“Indulge our children up to the age of five years, teach them to firm up the habits and disciples between five to fifteen years, and once they become 16 years, treat them as a friend.” Subhashita
Ancient Hindu principle suggests that children should maintain Brahmacharya until the age of 25 because it is considered as an age of creation and nurturing.
Children up to the age of five should be treated with all sort of royalty and must be given best care and upbringing as they do not know how to care for themselves. They also lack the verbal and emotional skill to express their needs with clarity. Parents need to observe and provide an environment in which they hear, sense, participate and interact with their children to develop skills of observation, communication, and behaviors.
Between the age of five and fifteen children need to be inculcated with the habits and disciplines that will make them a responsible and accountable citizens. At this age, children must learn manners, etiquettes, rules, and responsibilities they have as a citizen of the country. They should be provided with the opportunity to hone their talent and skills through a holistic learning and development.
Once, children attain the age of 16, they should be treated as a participant in handling family, society and national matter. They should be provided with the opportunity to go out and learn real-life lessons, participate in discussions, brainstorm on matters to crystallize their thinking and learn the skills of listening.
How many times you have been told, “You are not good enough.”
Most prolific entrepreneurs, artists, leaders, and achievers have faced naysayers. They are everywhere in and they are in all of us.
During my growing up years, I was a bit introvert. I was not expressive. I was told, “You can’t write or speak in Hindi or English for 5 minutes. You are useless.” It took me less than 6 months to start publishing articles in leading newspapers and start speaking fluently in English. I didn’t respond to my naysayer by instant reply. I worked on it. I built the capabilities. I demonstrated that every weakness can be worked upon to convert it into your strength. To date, over 200 of my articles are published on various magazines and addressed over 30,000 people through keynotes, trainings, and workshops.
“First they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you. Then you win.” Mahatma Gandhi
Start believing that naysayers are doing you a favor. They are showing you the blindspot. Whenever you are faced with the naysayers don’t respond to them at an instant. Listen to them carefully, understand why they are saying this to you, thoroughly consider the why, how and what can get you to build your shortcomings into your strength. Move forward with the confidence to work upon it before you go and present your best to naysayers.
Let naysayers be busy making noise, you continue making things happen.
Everyone on the mission meets with people who curse, whin, whing and complain, you can continue to light the candle than curse the darkness.
Others may be busy criticising, but you dare yourself to go out of your comfort zone to fulfill your hunger, ambition, success, and greatness.
Don’t define yourself by your criticism, you refine your strength by disrupting and challenging the status quo pushing yourself to be a game changer.
When elephant walk on the road dog barks, you have chosen to be a big heart – doing righteous thing, giving back, empowering the loved ones and seizing the opportunities.
Life is all about going from moment to moment doing right things or doing wrong things or doing nothing. And while being in these situations our mind generates emotions.
If you are doing right things your mind generates positive emotions of love, compassion, happiness, and pleasure. If you are doing wrong things or we are doing nothing, your mind is most likely generating negative emotions of hate, anger, fear, jealousy, infatuation, grief, distress, and pain and suffering. Your mind generates emotions because it is in constant contact between the senses and objects.
More you connect with the positive emotions better you’ll be overall in your life. So, whenever you feel under the grip of negative emotions, you need to take control yourself with some simple acts which will self-generate the positive emotions.
You are feeling upset because you didn’t get what you expected, just remind yourself “This too shall pass.”
Play or do things that make you feel happy. Shoot the hoop, make funny faces, tell jokes, sing your favorite song or anything else that you like.
Mediate for a while. Meditation helps you declutter your mind and instantly generates positive energy as it soothes your nerves.
Make a call to your friend with whom you can speak out your feelings.
Take someone whom you love for a treat. Enjoy your favorite food, drink, activity, shopping or anything else that you both enjoy.
Talk out loud with yourself. Go to a place where no one can hear you and just talk out loud to yourself. You will find yourself a lot more positive.
Emotion is a unique asset gifted to the living being. You can make robots which can be more intelligent than any living being but you cannot instill humanlike emotion to the robots. Live yourself more under the influence of positive emotions so that you are always empowered with your intelligence.
“You are born original, don’t die a copy.”
Sounds so much interesting and promising. Right.
After spending 9 months inside the womb in a downward direction placed between urine, excreta, and suffered a lot by the heat and smell, when you entered the world, it was such a pleasant feeling getting the grand reception from your mother, father, family, and relatives.
Everyone had a dream about you. Everyone wanted you to be the best version of them. But, as you grew, you started facing the limiting beliefs, restrictions, rules, social values, peer pressure and other real-life challenges.
You forgot the original you. You are now nothing else but a body having lost hope, diminished courage, dejection, and low spirit. And to cover it up, you started possessing the false ego, pretention, materialism, and self-boasting.
The life has become a suffering under the grip of despondency that leads to depression and confusion. It’s worrisome to observe our family and friends suffering due to constraints and stigmas. It is common to get vindicated watching the act of sinuous crime in our surrounding. You are nothing but a victim of the rules, guidelines, and laws imposed by few people merely understanding the paradigm under which human potential can bloom.
Can you list out the despondencies you suffer which have become the roadblock for you to not realize your true potential?
Points to Ponder – You’ve already wasted enough of time eating, sleeping, drinking, and wishful thinking – are you taking charge of your life or just made up the mind to die for a penny?
Everywhere in the social channels, you’d be seeing these quotes:
“Whom would you like to meet on your death day?”
“If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today.”
Take one more today: “If you have to make your biopic someday, what scene you are writing today?” This is the way to start with the end in mind.
As per erstwhile Indian tradition, bride and groom return home together in a sedan. A newlywed couple was traveling together to the marital home. While crossing a village the groom saw a cremation possession of a dead man. He informed his wife, “So sad day for the family, this man died today.”
Bride responded, “He’s not only dead but fully vanished wasted from the earth.”
The groom was taken aback. However, he tolerated the response thinking she might not have any emotional feelings about the grieved family.
After traveling few miles, the man saw a very well groomed paddy farm. He spoke the word of appreciation, “What a paddy farm? The farmer will certainly recover lots of profit for his efforts.”
The bride again responded, “There is nothing left for the farmer to rejoice.”
The groom started feeling angry and uncomfortable with the response. However, he tolerated the response and the sedan moved further.
After traveling further for a while, the groom saw a village market. He opined feeling impressed looking at the glam and glitter of the market, “Wow! This is such a huge and well-placed market with so many merchants and buyers.”
The bride replied, “Market is good but meaningless.”
The groom’s face was frowning with anger. He forced to stop the sedan. He went to the head of the nearby village and complained about his bride citing all the incidences and responses.
The head of the village asked the bride for the reason.
The bride replied:
1. I said the man is completely dead because he’s not left any legacy behind which will remind people of his deeds and acts of social charity.
2. The paddy farm owner has taken the loan and entire crop will be handed over to the merchant to repay the loan. So, he has nothing left for him.
3. The market is right but we don’t have money to buy anything from the market. It is meaningless to us.
The head of the village got convinced by the answer and asked the groom to respect his highly intelligent and practical bride.
What do you think of your story? Are you leaving a legacy?
Are you preserving and protecting yourself?
Are you having what it takes to live happily?
If you have not written a chapter yet, today is your day. All it takes is to think, decide and do – just do it!
One thing that can separate you from the ordinary is your ability to deliver results on time. On time is a beautiful thing – we all love it! There are many people who keep setting goals but when it comes to converting their goal into a real thing, they fail. If you have a goal and have been struggling to convert them into real results and feel accomplished, here are four simple steps to get started.
ONE habit to progress to the next level
Have you lately felt like left out? Outdated? Inadequate? Incompetent?
If your subconscious said “YES” read on to regain your lost ground yet again developing the habits of consistent progress.
Tonight, before you go to bed, make a list of 3 important actions you could take to recreate yourself.
Set your alarm clock to wake up 30 minutes earlier and jump out of your bed to get started learning/doing things that can help you get to the next level to accomplish the planned activities for 30 minutes. You will build an inner urge to work further to finish the activity.
Repeat this habit for 2 days then 7 days, then 30 days and then its part of your daily habits.
Creating consistent progress just takes some effort to get going. But once you make it a habit, you’ll never look back.
Don’t just work in a VACCUM
It’s people who control resources, ideas, innovations, money and everything else. To build something meaningful, you need to engage with people to discuss, validate and seek their support to make it more meaningful and relevant. People who build successful products always stay engaged with the community to collaborate and bounce ideas.
It’s time you start building your own community of mentors, peers, advisors, and fans.
Mentors can provide you the guidance and advice you can apply to make things more meaningful.
Peers can help you with their time, efforts and materials to expedite your time to market.
Fans and users can buy your product or services as they trust you for your skills and excellence. They can also spread good words to other people to help you achieve your goals.
To get started with building your network, prepare your list, set the goal and start reaching out to them. You’ll thank yourself for this day as you will see how you’ve delivered a really meaningful result to achieve the success you aimed for yourself.
Honey, I Shipped It!
What is that one thing that you’d ship today, tomorrow or this weekend? Have you set the deadline for it?
We love it when our Amazon shipment arrives on or before time, we love when FedEx delivers our package on time, and we enjoy reaching out to our travel destination on time. On time is a beautiful thing. We love it. To be on time means you must set a deadline and commit yourself for delivering on time.
I’ve worked with people who’d say, “When I will be ready to deliver it, you’ll know.” It simply means that you are working on it without a deadline. You’re peddling aimlessly, developing something, fixing some stuff, rearranging things and planning things with the mindset “Things takes its own course of time to get done.”
– Why don’t you start this week with one deadline?
– Set a goal for this week, mark it on your calendar, and tell it to your spouse, boss or best friend.
– Your goal must be SMART – Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Timely.
– Decide on the 2-3 actions that you are going to take every day to achieve the set goal.
Call your spouse, boss, or friend over the weekend to tell “Honey, I shipped It!” Take my word, you’d savor the accomplishment over the weekend—and then you’ll be ready to set a new deadline and get it done
Promote Your Work
Today everyone is busy, distracted and living in a noisy world. We are seekers of novelty, social recognition, and connection. It makes us feel accomplished.
You need to communicate your unique values, your work to people and reach out to people who can find value in it. Indirectly this is the job of marketing.
Today, look at your presence across various media like Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Blog or any other outlet where you probably need to be present. Look at the values that you are presenting in front of your network and how that is going to help you in making you strike the novelty.
To conclude, if you’ve yet not got started with achieving something meaningful in your life; set your goals first and follow the four-step formula you have just learned here. If you have followed this article and you have started getting the results, please share as a comment for others to draw an inspiration.